Gratitude Forum

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January 2020

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Grateful this fourth day of January for ...

~ a new year with new beginnings
~ radical acceptance of what I can't change in this moment
~ giving and receiving love
~ listening to music that soothes my soul
~ calls from my kids

shine
sandra

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Grateful this Tuesday morning for ...

~ meeting Awakening participants
~ sunshine
~ Poinsettias still looking beautiful
~ how son & his new girlfriend interact
~ Christmas tree still makes me smile
~ all is well

shine
sandra

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Aloha,  I’m Grateful for

waking up with less of a cough

Having a virtual meeting so i did not have to worry about spreading this yuck

Moving while Sandra read...

Learning about Ignatious spirituality ...  a moment of FEELING the Rock...  OMG 

That my divine friend is here now... with me 

Homework... this is so wonderful Mahalo 

Mahalo Ke Akua. Pulelehua

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21 january 

I'm grateful for feeling connected to my body, a smile from a friend, a manager who took the time to listen to my perspective,  my partner taking out the trash without being asked, a colleague who noticed and asked if I was okay

 

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I'm grateful for:

  1. Being in a class learning about the most important stuff of life (at least according to me!)
  2. My husband and my dog still love me
  3. The sun is shining and the sky is blue blue blue
  4. I am healthy
  5. I have hope

 

      Sharon L.

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I’m grateful I woke up this morning. 
i’m grateful my friend answered the phone when I called her and understood my issues.

I’m grateful for a delicious breakfast.

I’m grateful that my sick roommate cleaned up after herself and put everything in the dishwasher and is really coming along she’s 17

I’m grateful that my sick roommate cleaned up after herself and put everything in the dishwasher and is really coming along she’s 17

I’m grateful to be doing this right now

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Grateful this Wednesday evening for ....

~ did not break anything when I fell this time
~ my sweetie's attentiveness when I fell
~ understanding participants when I had to cancel tonight's class
~ safely at home in our cozy home when snow/sleet/ice in the forecast
~ neighbors coming together to help each other
~ all is well

shine
sandra

 

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I am grateful for my daughter’s phone call today

grateful for all programmes that support recovery 

grateful fo two clients that I was able to see tonight

grateful for coffee with a friend this morning 

grateful for a call from a friend who has moved far away and our 35 years of friendship

 

 

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I'm grateful for:

  1.  A goodnight's sleep
  2.  The quiet
  3.  Freedom to do as I wish
  4.  Kindred Spirits
  5.  Feeling more peace                                   

       Sharon L.

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I am grateful for the beautiful cool morning

i am grateful for the sweet teenaged jumping in my pool

im grateful for doggie snuggling 

I’m grateful for breakfast with friends this morning

— Pulelehua Quirk 

I grateful to have read this today 

Self Observation

The following is the 26th chapter in “AWARENESS: Anthony deMellow Spirituality Conference in His Own Words”, by Fr. Anthony de Mello, S.J. edited by J. Francis Stroud, S.J.

“The first thing you need to do is get in touch with negative feelings that you’re not even aware of. Lots of people have negative feelings they’re not aware of. Lots of people are depressed and they’re not aware they are depressed. It’s only when they make contact with joy that they understand how depressed they were. You can’t deal with a cancer that you haven’t detected. You can’t get rid of boll weevils on your farm if you’re not aware of their existence. The first thing you need is awareness of your negative feelings. What negative feelings? Gloominess, for instance. You’re feeling gloomy and moody. You feel self-hatred or guilt. You feel that life is pointless, that it makes no sense; you’ve got hurt feelings, you’re feeling nervous and tense. Get in touch with those feelings first.

The second step: (this is a four-step program) is to understand that the feeling is in you, not in reality. That’s such a self-evident thing, but do you think people know it? They don’t, believe me. They’ve got Ph.Ds. and are presidents of universities, but they haven’t understood this. They didn’t teach me how to live at school. They taught me everything else. As one man said, ‘I got a pretty good education. It took me years to get over it.’ That’s what spirituality is all about, you know: unlearning. Unlearning all the rubbish they taught you.

Negative feelings are in you, not in reality. So stop trying to change reality. That’s crazy! Stop trying to change the other person. We spend all our time and energy trying to change external circumstances, trying to change our spouses, our bosses, our friends, our enemies, and everybody else. We don’t have to change anything. Negative feelings are in you. No person on earth has the power to make you unhappy. There is no event on earth that has the power to disturb you or hurt you. No event, condition, situation, or person. Nobody told you this; they told you the opposite. That’s why you’re in the mess that you’re in right now. That is why you’re asleep. They never told you this. But it’s self-evident.

Let’s suppose that rain washes out a picnic. Who is feeling negative? The rain? Or you? What’s causing the negative feeling? The rain or your reaction? When you bump your knee against a table, the table’s fine. It’s busy being what it was made to be—a table. The pain is in your knee, not in the table. The mystics keep trying to tell us that reality is all right. Reality is not problematic. Problems exist only in the human mind. We might add: in the stupid, sleeping human mind. Reality is not problematic. Take away human beings from this planet and life would go on, nature would go on in all its loveliness and violence. Where would the problem be? No problem. You created the problem. You are the problem. You identified with ‘me’ and that is the problem. The feeling is in you, not in reality.

The third step: Never identify with that feeling. It has nothing to do with the ‘I’. Don’t define your essential self in terms of that feeling. Don’t say, ‘I am depressed.’ If you want to say, ‘It is depressed,’ that’s all right. If you want to say depression is there, that’s fine; if you want to say gloominess is there, that’s fine. But not: I am gloomy. You’re defining yourself in terms of the feeling. That’s your illusion; that’s your mistake. There is a depression there right now, there are hurt feelings there right now, but let it be, leave it alone. It will pass. Everything passes, everything. Your depressions and your thrills have nothing to do with happiness. Those are the swings of the pendulum. If you seek kicks or thrills, get ready for depression. Do you want your drug? Get ready for the hangover. One end of the pendulum swings to the other.

This has nothing to do with ‘I’; it has nothing to do with happiness. It is the ‘me.’ If you remember this, if you say it to yourself a thousand times, if you try these three steps a thousand times, you will get it. You might not need to do it even three times. I don’t know; there’s no rule for it. But do it a thousand times and you’ll make the biggest discovery in your life. To hell with those gold mines in Alaska. What are you going to do with that gold? If you’re not happy, you can’t live. So you found gold. What does that matter? You’re a king; you’re a princess. You’re free; you don’t care anymore about being accepted or rejected, that makes no difference. Psychologists tell us how important it is to get a sense of belonging. Baloney! Why do you want to belong to anybody? It doesn’t matter anymore.

No event justifies a negative feeling. There is no situation in the world that justifies a negative feeling. That’s what all our mystics have been crying themselves hoarse to tell us. But nobody listens. The negative feeling is in you. In the Bhagavad-Gita, the sacred book of the Hindus, Lord Krishna says to Arjuna, ‘Plunge into the heat of battle and keep your heart at the lotus feet of the Lord.’ A marvelous sentence.
“You don’t have to do anything to acquire happiness. The great Meister Eckhart said very beautifully, ‘God is not attained by a process of addition to anything in the soul, but by a process of subtraction.’ You don’t do anything to be free, you drop something. Then you’re free.

It reminds me of the Irish prisoner who dug a tunnel under the prison wall and managed to escape. He comes out right in the middle of a school playground where little children are playing. Of course, when he emerges from the tunnel he can’t restrain himself anymore and begins to jump up and down, crying, ‘I’m free, I’m free, I’m free!’ A little girl there looks at him scornfully and says, ‘That’s nothing. I’m four.’

The fourth step: How do you change things? How do you change yourselves? There are many things you must understand here, or rather, just one thing that can be expressed in many ways. Imagine a patient who goes to a doctor and tells him what he is suffering from. The doctor says, ‘Very well, I’ve understood your symptoms. Do you know what I will do? I will prescribe a medicine for your neighbor!’ The patient replies, ‘Thank you very much, Doctor that makes me feel much better.’ Isn’t that absurd? But that’s what we all do. The person who is asleep always thinks he’ll feel better if somebody else changes. You’re suffering because you are asleep, but you’re thinking, ‘How wonderful life would be if somebody else would change; how wonderful life would be if my neighbor changed, my wife changed, my boss changed.’

We always want someone else to change so that we will feel good. But has it ever struck you that even if your wife changes or your husband changes, what does that do to you? You’re just as vulnerable as before; you’re just as idiotic as before; you’re just as asleep as before. You are the one who needs to change, who needs to take medicine. You keep insisting, ‘I feel good because the world is right.’ Wrong! The world is right because I feel good. That’s what all the mystics are saying.”

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Grateful this Thursday for ...

~ Pulelehua's Anthony deMello excerpt
~ letting a situation be what it is
~ the predicted snow  & ice missed us last night 
~ putting a plan in place to reduce risk of falls
~ my Irish wool blanket that was a present from my sweetie
~ all is well

Shine
Sandra

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Grateful today for 

  • the 'Mindfulness meditation' group anchored and guided by Sandra Miller
  • the ability to enjoy brisk walk in the cold air after Church today
  • the cat that models how it is  ok to be in the moment
  • the release of fear in minute degrees
  • the ginger tea that relaxes me and warms me up on the inside and out
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grateful for a good night’s sleep last night

for community of supportive people 

for online talk I listened to last night on shame

for phone calls with my son and daughter today

for goods results from my eye exam and the wonderful optometrist who makes everything fun even eye exams

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I'm grateful for:

a long hug

real laughter

tears shed

feeling my emotions while reading Nouwen

sharing those emotions with friends

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grateful this Friday for 

  • the prolife march and the people attending it and facilitating
  • my prayer group that prays with me daily via conference call
  • for my meditation buddies
  • my reading from Henri Nouwen's reading that reminded me to go deep and intimate with self
  • the awareness in me about my hidden thoughts that are both positive and negative about elapsed time as the clock is ticking away

Tess

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